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25 Lessons Learned in 25 Years

Happy 25th Birthday to me!! 🎂

One of my good friends I call Mole-y (nickname originating from high school chemistry learning about moles) writes a list on Facebook every New Year’s Eve of what she’s learned the past year, and I LOVE that. So I wanted to do my own list of lessons, but lessons that I have learned in my 25 years of living.

I’m excited to be 25, in all honesty. I’m not upset about getting older. There was a decent amount of time where I didn’t think I’d make it to 20, so the fact that 1) I’m here and 2) I am officially in my “mid-20s” and old enough to rent a car is incredible. It’s definitely something I’m grateful for and proud of. And to celebrate this milestone, I wrote the following list.

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25 Lessons I’ve Learned in my 25 Years

1. Drinking water is not a punishment

2. Never underestimate the power of a good night’s sleep

3. When presented with the opportunity, never skip dessert if you want it.

4. Mental health is JUST. AS. IMPORTANT. as physical health. Never let anyone tell you differently.

5. Other people’s opinions (in the form of advice, suggestions, their everyday conversation, whatever) is not your business. It’s only a reflection of themselves and their perceptions. Listen to what resonates and leave the rest.

6. Books are the best friends you’ll ever have

7. Bandwagons are for suckers. Get to know your true self and hold on tight to what YOU actually like.

8. You will never please everyone, so you may as well just be respectful to everyone while you work to please yourself.

9. Love is real, and it’s important to be your best for your partner, but you need to be the most important person in your life.

10. Life’s too short to not have chocolate, but life’s also too short to not take care of yourself. Everything in moderation.

11. When it comes to someone’s way of life, there is no “wrong”. We are all byproducts of our parents procreation, no one asked to be here and no one has the answers. There is just “different”, but all human beings deserve respect.

12. PLEASE remember that the actual saying is “the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb”, which actually means that you can’t choose who you’re related to but you can choose who you have around you. Those relationships matter the most.

13. Happiness is the most important thing in life. If something or someone does not make you happy, don’t leave the room for it in your life. You only get a handful of years on this earth living this life, so don’t waste them living your life for someone else’s benefit.

14. Pushing yourself past your comfort zone is important, but you need to be kind to yourself in the process.

15. Always choose to travel when you can.

16. Pride should never be in the driver’s seat of life.

17. Keep playing, well into your adult life. Never lose sight of the child in your heart, it’ll make life so much sweeter.

18. We all have things we need to work through and let go of, and there is absolutely no shame in utilizing therapy as a resource

19. Unlearning is just as important as learning.

20. Sometimes you need to give yourself closure.

21. Listen past a person’s anger and most likely you’ll hear fear.

22. No one cares about what you look like as much as you do, so wear what you want. If anyone has anything unpleasant to say about your body, remember that your confidence might be perceived by them as a threat… and that you look amazing.

23. Quality over quantity with everything. Seriously, with everything.

24. People treat you the way you allow them to. If you’re unhappy with the standards that you set that they’re now adhering to – rework your standards to match your worth.

25. No one human being on this planet is more important or valuable than anyone else. Regardless of race, ethnicity, religious/spiritual beliefs, sexual orientation, gender identity, age, physical ability, neurotypicality/neurodivergence- we are all human beings just trying our best to live out our soul’s mission in this life.

Extra for good luck 🕯: Treat everyone with kindness, including yourself. Learn the Love Languages of people in your life. Treat yourself with the same love and regard you treat your best friend. Befriend at least one spiritual person. Read The Four Agreements. Move your body in a way that also brings you happiness. Cultivate a morning routine so you give yourself time before you give your energy to anyone else. Nourish your body with good food. Healthy mind, healthy body; and vice versa. Spend as much time outside as possible. And most of all-  Choose happy ✌🏻😁

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My Hopes for Society After the COVID19 Storm Passes

Happy Wednesday, everyone!

I promised myself I’d keep my typing fingers still when it came to the coronavirus/COVID19 craziness, but I have some thoughts that I haven’t seen shared much that I think are super important in a time like this.

Side note: I am a spiritual person. I study teachings from the major religions and have been studying more of spiritual teachings, witchcraft traditions, etc. I don’t really identify as any one particular school of thought, as I find that the themes of most of these ideologies are the same. Love your neighbor, love yourself, treat others how you want to be treated, etc.

Also, I’ve been working from home for almost a week now. It somehow feels like months and also like a shorter amount of time than a week at the same time. Time has always been something that hasn’t been the easiest on my anxiety, but I have been making an effort to keep myself at peace during this crazy time. Limiting my time on social media, only following uplifting accounts when I do go on, spending more time doing hobbies (reading and playing Animal Crossing: New Horizons, in case you were wondering!), and keeping a routine as best I can.

With that being said, I’ve also been pushing myself to really determine what is important to me. My priorities, my goals, my intentions, my dreams. What do I want my life to look like after this storm passes? And that has been a tad overwhelming, because my perspective has been zoomed out to a global scale (which is not helpful, as I cannot do anything about what the world does. I can only control myself and my actions, but anxiety seeps in to everything. Perspective is key!). However, below I have some lessons that I hope, as a international community, we can take with us when life returns back to normal.

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I hope we remember to take care of ourselves. Eating well, drinking water, washing our hands, being mindful of personal space, etc. I hope we remember that our bodies deserve to be taken care of always and not only in a pandemic.

I hope we remember to value those in the medical fields. EMTs, paramedics, doctors, nurses, CNAs, techs, etc. May we remember to respect them, to treat them well, and to compensate them fairly. These are the people with kind, selfless hearts and smart minds who take care of us during emergencies and during illness, and they should be revered as such.

I hope we remember to value our teachers. May we remember that not only do they teach our kid, but they teach probably 25 more kids every day. Middle school and high school teachers educate dozens of students a day. These people are the ones who inspire our children, who teach them, who lead them. May we treat them with respect, may we trust their judgement, and may we compensate them fairly as well.

May we not put so much emphasis on our neighbor’s race, religion, political views; may we care more about their well being.

May we learn more about ourselves – unpack our traumas, learn about things we’ve always wondered about, get back in touch with ourselves and our interests.

May we value our relationships. May we learn about our partner’s needs, their “tells” for when they’re stressed, their interests and priorities and goals. May we continue to fall in love with them every day. (For those in abusive relationships, may this time of isolation be the needed enlightenment to leave a toxic situation).

May we continue to support small and/or local businesses. Spending an extra dollar or two to support the corner store is nothing compared to a family losing their business to competition with chain corporate stores.

May we continue to come together as a community, to check in on the elderly, to support one another through hard times.

May we continue to appreciate nature. May we continue to take care of Mother Earth. The decrease in human activity lately on the planet has done great things for so many ecosystems, may we start to be mindful of the impact we have on our home.

May we remember the strength within us, within our communities. Illnesses are scary, but we have come a very long way as a global society. May we continue to choose peace, love, and light with all things. May we remember to prioritize our mental health. May we continue to not be wasteful with toiletries or food.

Most importantly, may we remember that we have all been through difficult times and have persevered. May we continue to look at the positives, to live with hope in the forefront of our minds, and be grateful for all things big and small.

I am sending every single person who reads this good, healthy, peaceful energy 💛

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